Divorce is a big stress for any person. In this article, we will talk
about how to survive this period and return to a fulfilling life.
1. Acceptance
Accept the fact of the breakup. If the partner has clearly said that the
relationship is over, it is important to accept this truth. If you don’t accept
it, you won’t be able to move on. If you maintain hope for a continuation, you
will not be able to help yourself, because why do something if everything will
soon return to its place again.
2. Manage Pain
At the very beginning, loved ones will help you cope with the pain. Call
friends, family, someone who will support you. Do not seek solace in bad
habits. They only exacerbate depressive and anxiety disorders.
3. Cry
Another way to deal with pain is to vent it out!
4. Do What Makes You Happy
Of the universal tips – this is sports, walking in sunny weather,
favorite hobbies. These are all natural sources of joy hormones.
5. Cut off all contact with your ex.
Delete his contacts from the phone, from social networks, do not go to
the pages. Realize that the more time and energy you spend on an ending
relationship, the longer you will be stuck in it.
6. Chat More With Different People
Go to the gym, to concerts, exhibitions, courses. When you are among
people (even strangers and silently), the feeling of loneliness goes away. Do
not be afraid to make new acquaintances (so far for the purpose of
communication, not relationships).
7. Don’t Self-flagellate
It’s one thing to engage in constructive criticism of what you’ve done
in a relationship, and quite another to berate yourself for it. Track the
moments when you begin to mentally torture yourself, and stop there, go to the
previous items on the list.
8. Build Your World
Shape your world separately from your partner: it has a place for your
personal hobbies, your friends, new personal goals and plans. Of course, this
is a long process. But in any business, the most important thing is to start.
9. Don’t hesitate to see a specialist
An expert’s view will help determine the severity of your condition and
what practices you can apply to quickly cope with the pain of separation.
10. Seek Meaning
Having successfully passed through the listed stages, you will be ready
for a dialogue with yourself. Analyze all your experience: ask yourself the
question “what can I take away from this?”. When you put the question in this
way, you may find that, thanks to what happened, you became closer to family
and friends, found new interests, acquired a dream figure and became, on the whole,
a completely different person.
To everyone who is going through a breakup, I wish strength and speedy
happiness.